Anita,

When I say I had to change my emotions, I guess I used to pretend a lot that things were okay when they really weren’t until I couldn’t hold it in anymore.

Also, it’s easy for me to think in black and white because I want to convey a message to my girlfriend that she will respond to but I also don’t want a negative reaction from her, if that makes sense. I want to communicate my needs, but don’t want the criticism of “why do you care about that stuff, why does it matter” and my answer to that being “because were in a relationship and were supposed to communicate and both put effort in”.