Dear Myles:

Your father, ” He gets angry very easily and it almost always ends in him physically lashing out and doing so for however long he wants to”- this behavior must have scared your brothers into their silence, their shutting down. I understand your eldest sister’s ending contact with your parents, as well as your plan to do so.

You have no obligation, I believe, legal or otherwise, as an adult anyway (a year from now?), to have a relationship with a parent or a sibling. So you don’t need to force it. As a child, you don’t have that choice. As an adult you do. And you can take advantage of this choice.

anita