Dear Felita,

I am glad you are staying on this supportive form of communication on this forum. Your relationship was not known to anyone, not even your family. It was only between the two of you. It would be hard, maybe it may even feel like it is impossible to break it to anyone when it has come to this stage (the drama: the split-up) — where would you begin, when you are overwhelmed by negative emotions at the moment? I understand that.

I sense from your writing that you are eager — maybe desperate — to “shake off” this attachment. Felita, if I, someone who has never met you, and know you a fraction of what you know of yourself, can (and I do) empathise with your situation and your mental anguish at the detachment (complete opposition to attachment) from this person, why don’t you think you can empathise with yourself? What I mean: can you look at the sad, “crazy” Felita who is suffering, what would be going through your head?

Stay here a while,

Gia