Dear Felita,

In an earlier post, you said when you tried to look at yourself, Felita, who is suffering, you judged her, that she’s “having mental illness or so what.” You asked me if the fact that you “want her attention, to make [yourself] feel good again” doesn’t make you a bad person (I think you already had an answer for yourself). I don’t think needing attention makes anyone a bad person. To me, a bad person is one who derives joy and pleasure from causing or seeing someone suffer.

You said something very important in your last post. You said that you “will love the person no matter how bad the person is.” Let’s imagine if Felita were a bad person like you say you are, you, the wiser Felita, will still love her like she’d love other, “better” people. That “bad Felita” needs someone to “love [her] no matter how bad [she thinks she] is” and to “cherish [her] and make [her] smile again.” Why can’t you also love, cherish, and hug this “bad” Felita?