Hi Kelsey, I’ve also been trying to get over a broken friendship with no success. I’ve avoided the person-which was not difficult since that wasn’t noticed. But then this person will contact me and the frustration rises up again. I’ve Googled how to moved past relationships and done all those things like starting a new physical activity, keeping busy with things I like to do, socializing more, etc. But those things don’t happen 24hrs a day, so my mind does find it’s way back to those thoughts again. No matter how many times I’ve listed the personality flaws that drove me away (insensitive, self-centered, unreliable, phony) it’s never enough.

What I recognize as ridiculous is that I’ve had a far longer toxic friendship in the past that I finally ended and it seems like after a couple weeks I was getting over it. But with this one, the fatal flaw was simply repeated inconsideration so there’s no reason there have been months of trying but it’s still under my skin.

Why do we get so hung up on one thing more than another? Maybe the expectations were higher from the start so we are far more shocked when we get burned.