Dear Mary:

You are welcome.

You wrote: “But what about the things that the narcissist has said to her about me? After making a failed attempt to clear the air (as I said she didn’t reply) I’ve decided to let things go”- I don’t see any other option. You tried to clear the air, no reply. So what can you do but let things go.

I agree: “let her believe whatever she wants to believe”- if it suits her to believe what she believes, she will continue to believe it. There is very little, if anything, that you can do to change what people believe. We have to find a way to live with the fact that some people believe what is not true, or what doesn’t suit us.

You wrote: “The thing is I am ok with apologizing for what I have said to the Narcissist with regards to her”- only if you said or did something you believe is wrong. And then, keep your distance, as big a distance as possible. Learn from this experience so to prevent problems like this in the future.

anita