Dear pocket_rocket:

It is clear to me that what you need most is stability, safety in stability, predictability, a time of sameness. This is the highest priority for you and for your children, especially for your children. This man changes, is not stable. Much of your behavior hasn’t been stable.

You asked for advice. My advice: seek the safety in stability, predictability, sameness. Live in one place, make a daily routine for you and especially for your children. Stay away from this man and any other person who is not a stabilizer in your life.

anita