Hi “Another” Craig and Anita – Thanks for reaching out. I looked at the Al Turtles site and will look more this weekend.  I think at first glance, i am a clinger and she is an avoider.  I am not clingy, don’t beg for attention but mentally, i do want it.  It makes me feel good. I know that when she gets stressed she pushes away everyone, family included and has always been that way.  She isolates herself.  Whats interesting though is she didn’t have a bad childhood, she has a wonderful family.  What’s been difficult for me is I viewed her as a incredibly strong woman.  Her pregnancy was inadvertent and a few weeks after she had her son, she was diagnosed with cancer.  She underwent 9 months of chemo and beat it.  Seeing her struggle with the stress and anxiety of school, and pushing everyone away is hard to grasp.  Maybe that isn’t fair of me to put her in the light but if she can beat cancer, in my eyes, she can do anything.  Unfortunately, the mind doesn’t work that way I guess.

Anita – We talked about long term plans, getting engaged at some point in the next year, the fact that she wanted to have another kid in the next few years. So yes, quite a lot. We talked  about moving in after she finished school when she is done late next month..  A couple months ago, we emptied her storage unit and moved it all to my house in anticipation of her and her son moving in after she graduates.  She currently lives with her parents who help with her son.  In hindsight, maybe that is something i should have suggested.  As of today though, i don’t think i could.  She has reiterated how lost she feels, how helpless she feels and how she needs to find herself.  She knows she needs to see someone to work through this but says she doesn’t have time with school. Part of me wonders if it got too real and then that compounded with stress scared her.

Craig