Anita – I do  think that the pressure to try to balance everything did stress her out and i wasn’t a relief.  She couldn’t quit school,  she can’t stop being a mom and she can’t stop working, so cutting me out gave her some control. She made a comment that when she gets stressed she tries to pick little fights and she didn’t want to do that to me. I guess i should mention that i was in a very unhealthy relationship prior to her.  My ex-finance became a new person immediately after we got engaged.  She was later diagnosed with PTSD and Borderline Personality disorder.  Fast forward to today when we broke up a few weeks ago she said she didn’t want to treat me bad, to drag me down with her.  She mentioned she was not suicidal nor did she want to harm herself.  I’m assuming she said that because my ex had attempted suicide multiple times.  A week later she said that her distance from me was a coping mechanism because she didn’t want to have the guilt of dragging me down.

As far as getting real, I mean.  School is almost done and that is all she knows for a long while.  After that, our relationship would have the chance to grow even more given that she doesn’t have to go to school every weekend.

Craig