Dear Nina:

So he was, over time, inconsistent and not a very loving boyfriend. You wrote: “I know I don’t deserve this and I deserve someone who will love me consistently and be there, but I still love him and a part of me still wishes he comes back and changes but I know it’s not possible. Why am I feeling this?”-

A possible answer: because you need to love and be loved. And in your life during those two years, and before, there was no better opportunity to love-and-be-loved; instead there is emptiness, such as in your relationship with your parents, a lack, a great emotional distance. So with your LDR boyfriend, there was something and that was better than nothing.

Could it be something like that?

anita