Dear Nina:

You are welcome. I asked you why you want to be with a man you have experienced as unreliable. Your answer, in part is that “unfortunately, love is not rational”- well, it doesn’t have to be irrational. We can insert rational, realistic thinking into our relationships. If we do it consistently, reliably, feelings will fit that reality, over time. Regarding being “not good at relations”- it is something you can get better at, learning from experience, through trial and error, new skills, and so on.

anita