Dear Eunitrix:

You wrote at the end of your original post: “I just need help on how to be positive despite this”- well, it is impossible to be positive when you are as angry as you are. Reads to me that you feel like your sister is a first priority in your mother’s choices, like she is more important than you and that is why your mother waited for her to finish college even though it made you too old for the petition.

You feel lots of anger toward your younger sister. I don’t know if she has wronged you reading your examples. When you wrote: “She refuses to listen when I scold her for her wrong doing”- why should she listen when you scold her? You shouldn’t be scolding her.

Somehow your anger needs to be resolved.

I wish you had better communication with your mother. It seems to me that your mother’s choices and priorities brought about your anger more than your sister’s choices, don’t you think?

anita