Hi Inky,

Thanks for your reply!

He cancer is at stage 3 and has finished his treatment. He has been travelling around for work.

I was struggling to balance between showing my care and giving him space. I text him once a week. He told me he is always happy to hear from me. I was telling him I try not to bother him a lot. He told me he did notice when I didn’t text and ask me do not try not to text him. He may be polite to say that to me. I wish to do the best for him. Sometimes I feel he needs my care, sometimes I don’t. I need to have wisdom to follow his lead. I know I need closure so that I can give my support unconditionally. It’s not easy to move on when I try to care about him and on the other hand, try to forget about him. I know I have to be a better person for myself and for him!

Thank you!

Amanda