Dear Anita,

Thank you for your message.

He has a diagnosis for which he takes daily meds. He told me this about one month into our relationship. While I understand it is an incredibly difficult thing to talk about, he did attack me on several occasions prior to this for calling him out on his strange behaviour (not even thinking about the fact he actually might have mental issues). He told me he’s on daily meds and has days when he doesn’t want to talk to anybody. That I would understand, but even on good days he didn’t seem to be overly interested in spending a lot of time with me. When I complained about him cutting our text conversation short, he told me he was going through one of his episodes and I was making him feel guilty. But this episode was the day after our text conversation – so it did not apply. I understand he had days when he didn’t want to see me or talk to me, but there was also never days when he did. I felt so lonely, having this amazing person in my life, who wouldn’t let me in. And I tried – I really tried. And as we were breaking up he said some ridiculous things. He said we were not attached at the hip. Like seriously? He told me I was only thinking of myself and I offered so many times my assistance, a shoulder to cry on – but he wouldn’t let me close. How could I let myself love a person whom I don’t trust with my heart?

Thank you,

D.