Dear Anita,

Thank you again. I don’t know what meds he’s taking and his diagnosis has to do with his mood swings.

I did. He is a charming and smart guy and when we were together (which was never) he was a gentleman, respectful, he would send me texts and tell me how much I mean to him and how I am the only one who understands him (I’ve never got the chance to get close to him, so I don’t know where he’s getting this idea from). He was funny, sweet, affectionate – WHEN he was there, but that was so rare. It was torture. Having this man in my life – knowing he can’t be mine.

Also, he now goes hiking every weekend with my friends. Where are the headaches, the meds, the issues now? He goes on overnight trips like nobody’s business.

Being afraid of opening up – I would get that, but he talked to me about our marriage, he told me he loved me in another language, he told me what he would name our first kid. This is not a person afraid of commitment, rather someone who wants to be in one so badly, but can’t.

I honestly felt we were meant to be together. Clearly not the case.