Dear Daisy:

You wrote (last post): “had he not wanted to date me he could have told me that instead”, but he did, after the first two times of getting together, “He asked me for a walk and explained he was super busy right now and suggested we should postpone dating for several months.” (original post)

You wrote: “i cant possibly see his behavior as accommodating me. He was not a good bf.”- and I agree, this is why I wrote to you again and again in my post to you (the one with my understanding of what happened) that he accommodated you “a little” and “somewhat”.

As to “why on Earth would he want to please a girl he had just met?”- there are people who want to please not only people they just met but people they will never meet again. There are people who are afraid of displeasing anyone, no matter when they met them or if they will ever meet them again. This is so because they project people into their lives and previous experiences into new people and new experiences, feeling the same fears as before.

You wrote: “He has no problem telling people off”- I am thinking he is going between being scared and angry, scared and angry…accommodating (a little, somewhat) and telling people off.

anita