Dear Daisy:

The title of your thread is “What happened” and not Whose-fault-was-it. I will explain:

As I see it, this relationship could not have possibly worked out no matter what you said or did. I don’t think there was anything you could have said or done to make this “7th heaven” extend any longer than it did, for you. Nor do I see that it could have developed into a healthy, loving relationship in realistic terms. The reason for my belief is that as he stated to you after the first two times, that he was not ready for a relationship, and as he stated to you later, he did/ does have those “mental issues” you mentioned, issues that are the reason why he is not ready.

You wrote that you gave him “enough space and time”- thing is, he needs more than space and time.

I think he talked to you about marriage and kids, called you his girlfriend so to please you, to give you what you wanted, well… a little of what you wanted, somewhat, a token.

anita