Hi Kate,

What I got out from your post is the following facts:

a) The relationship was built on common core values, while there are also differences in some other core areas (you didn’t specify what these are; however, I question if these differences play a graver role than the fact that you shared common core values? I thought having common core values should outweigh other differences? Help me understand.)

b) Passion has died. (Can you explain what do you mean by passion and that observation?)

c) In spite of deciding go your separate ways, you both maintain respect and love for each other.

d) You miss him (Does he miss you as much as you miss him, and why does he miss you?), and doubt if you did the right thing. (Was it a mutual decision? Or did you leave him? If it was a mutual decision, then the result was not only your doing. So then whether you did the right thing or not, you contributed to only half of the consequence (breaking up).

I’m trying to understand in order to help. Please forgive me if you felt I was questioning you. I stand by whatever you are feeling, even though they are not pleasant.

gia