Dear Sarah:

I suppose it is possible that he is testing you but I doubt it unless he tested you before, unless it is something he has done while you were dating.

It is also possible that he is unassertive, that he doesn’t want to date you again but feels uncomfortable about communicating that to you directly. Has he been unassertive with you before, or did you witness him being unassertive with others?

Another question: did you apologize for taking your distress out on him before, and if so, what was the content of your apology and what was his reaction?

anita