Dear Connie:

You asked your ex if it would be okay with him to keep your belongings in your place until you settle. An accurate answer would have been “yes’ and maybe with a time limit: “yes, you can leave your stuff here for a month or two” or “for as long as you need to, as they are not in my way”-

His answer though was: ““anything you need, as always”- not accurate, not true. At first it made you feel good but later on the untruth of it hit you. His answer was not malicious in intent, of course. He meant to appear friendly to you, to communicate some kind of a positive feeling to you. But it is not true.

People say a whole lot of untrue things. This is why it exhausts me sometimes, talking to people. Too much of what people say is untrue, feel-good stuff. I prefer accuracy, truth.

anita