Dear Keerthi:

I think that something significant did happen recently and that was your parents staying with you and your boyfriend for 4 months and then leaving. You wrote: “I was always trying my best to keep things perfect between them, and everything went just fine..”-

I am thinking that there were some problems in that situation and that is why you were “always trying (your) best to keep things perfect,” maybe your parents expressed to you that they are not okay with you living with a boyfriend, that you should live with a husband, that is, that you should be married. That would explain your later pressuring your boyfriend to get married.

Maybe your parents expressed to you that they are not okay with your boyfriend being Canadian, not Indian. That could explain your worries on the matter.

For some time during your parents’ visit and following their departure, you were torn (I am thinking) between your emotional attachment to your parents and your emotional attachment to your boyfriend.

Your thoughts/ feelings about what I wrote here…?

anita