Hey Cal,

I truly feel for you, but if you are brutally honest – why do you think your wife has gone looking elsewhere? There is something from this online guy she is getting that she hasn’t gotten from you. It’s not a physical thing she’s looking for – because she hasn’t met and slept with the guy, it’s something emotional he’s doing for her.

Im not saying this is your fault – and I do agree with the others that I don’t believe anything will come of them meeting (just the pure hell you’re goig through). No wife/mother wants to break her family up – but she’s missing something that she needs that she’s probably suppressed for a lot of years.

There is a definite need for some serious marriage counselling if you’s decide to stay together. Not only to fix whatever the real problem is – but you will also need to learn how to trust her again. I’ve been where you’ve been. Every time my husband got a txt msg, an email, a Facebook msg – I would feel sick beyond belief. I know the torture you’re feeling and it makes me just want to hug you.

Theres nothing any of us can say that will help stop the pain and panic and heartache you’ll go through while this pans out. If I’m honest – it probably won’t ever leave your mind until it’s over. I would get YOURSELF into a counsellor or therapist asap – you’ll need one whichever way this goes.

You will survive this tho – I promise.

C x