Dear Natasha:

You are welcome. I am glad you are feeling better. For the purpose of the relationship getting better, I want to attend a bit more to the issue of the aunt. Last thing you wrote on the issue a few posts ago was: “regarding to the aunt matter, definitely, never trusting any couple issue to nobody, I would talk to him only”-

what hurt the relationship is not that you trusted a couple issue with the aunt but that you betrayed Carlos by talking about him behind his back, listening to negative criticism of him and then telling him about it. I understand why it distressed him so much that you did these things and why it hurt the relationship. You betrayed his trust in you.

You wrote that you told him what the aunt said “”with the purpose to motivate him to change and become a better person”-  it does not motivate a person to hear negative criticism, and you can see it for yourself: it hurt Carlos and it hurt the relationship.

anita