Dear Joey:

You wrote: “I was garbage”- but you had a best friend relationship with a woman you value very much. You don’t think a valuable woman would have been best friends with… garbage, do you?

I used to think that I was lazy too. But I learned that I wasn’t lazy, that my motivation was discouraged repeatedly, throughout my childhood. One way it was discouraged was that when I performed physical tasks like washing dishes, my work was negatively criticized. So to avoid the criticism I stopped initiating any type of physical work.

If you think about your childhood, do you see anything similar to what I described?

anita