Dear Ceebee:

I second Not apologizing to him.

You wrote: ” Buddhism says to forgive and apologise all humans no matter how they treated you. However, when he has shown disrespect for me”-

I don’t care who or what says that the right thing for a person who was and is disrespected, mistreated, abused and so forth, to apologize to the one doing the disrespecting, mistreating, abusing and so on, that source of information is wrong.

If you were in captivity, a prisoner of the disrespecting person threatening you with physical harm, then, I suppose you would apologize and say and do anything to appease them, to save your very life. But this is not the case.

He disrespected you bring up the sex again. Apologizing to him for disrespecting you is you disrespecting yourself. That would lead to more disrespect, by him and by yourself.

anita