Dear iznogud:

I did not understand much from your last post (or the one line recent post). I think it is your English, but if you post again, I think that you can make yourself clearer. Take your time to read and re-read what I wrote to you, look up any words you don’t recognize and then write your own post clearly and patiently.

You wrote: “i changed , from being quick tempered , i stop with arguing , i even forgive a lot of things because living with anger is self destruction”- do you mean that you stopped arguing with people who mistreat you? That you forgive people who mistreat you so to not feel angry?

If so, this is not what I meant by forgiving in my last post to you. What I meant was for you to forgive yourself. I did not suggest that you forgive and allow people to mistreat you.

You wrote: “when i was getting my anger out even trough making stupidities i was grounded .. now when i’m trying to swallow all that happened and is happening , to not make troubles i’m actually stuck with anxiety , in self doubt …”-

By “trying to swallow”, do you mean that you take mistreatment, or abuse without arguing, but submissively, in line with forgiving others? If so, then no wonder you are stuck in anxiety. We have to protect ourselves from abuse.

anita