Dear Mina:

I would like you to remember having been accepted and loved whether or not you contact him. I am okay with the idea of contacting him because you want to, because he was never abusive to you and not at all likely to be, because it will be more of Reality for you, if you contact him. I don’t know how he will respond, I imagine kindly.

I wonder if you should add a line to your message to him, that you are interested in occasional communication with him, that you miss him and would like some contact, asking him how he feels about it? Some contact may benefit the two of you.

Regarding you rejecting yourself without even knowing, that is because you were rejected by your parents, rejected as the authentic Mina. Patents often take care of their children’s physical needs, but neglect their emotional needs. And so, what results is children/ adult children who are well fed (often enough, overly fed), well clothed, etc., but unloved and unhappy.

We, humans, are much more than physical bodies that need to be fed and clothed, and we are more than a brain that needs formal education. We have emotions and those get automatically hurt when ignored and rejected by our parents.

anita