Hi Leaf,

You definitely have a lot going on and a lot to deal with.

To start–just tell your parents that you got a divorce. I know it’s hard, but imagine they live another 20 years–you’re going to have to tell them at some point. You’re also creating a great deal of anxiety around the fact that you haven’t told them.

I also really recommend counseling if you can get it in your country. There’s clearly a lot of cross-generational issues going on here–I mean, your mother has cheated and now you have cheated as well. It will be incredibly helpful to explore the emotions associated with all of that in the presence of a licensed professional.