Dear Leaf:

You fear their disappointment and judgment of you because you already experienced it, correct? Your father’s anger for one, that is scary, especially for a child.

What we are afraid most of is what we already experienced. It felt so badly then, when we experienced it, that we don’t want to experience it again.

I think it is perfectly fine that you don’t tell them that you are divorced or why you are divorced. If you agree with my understanding, that is, that you already experienced their disappointment and judgment and therefore you are afraid of encountering it again, perhaps it is the right time to attend quality psychotherapy.

I don’t think that the main issue is telling-them. I think it is the hurt you already felt by their disapproval that you are scared of feeling again.

anita