Dear Monica:

What you listed above is your Core Beliefs: what you believe:

“I deserve to be punish for that (for having “lost someone that I loved”), and that punishment is – feeling that constant concern and worry over Gyunnie happiness and well being.

I do not deserve to be happy if he is not happy. I do not deserve to be healthy if he is suffering mentally.”

You wrote that your empathy for other people has been short lived, unlike your empathy for Gyunnie. You weren’t as emotionally attached to others as you have been and are, to Gyunnie.  It is this emotional attachment that makes this difference.

I believe that Gyunnie is not the first person in your life to whom you felt such strong emotional attachment. I believe you felt it to your mother, maybe your father (you tell me…) and that you formed that core belief then, before you met Gyunnie.

anita