Dear Monica:

But you validated your feelings and your pain and you did something about it, planning to do more. Excellent. I am all for you leaving K University and Korea since you persistently expressed your suffering in the university and in Korea.

You will be seeing a counselor at K soon and the research, once you calm down from the recent excitement, will not take too long. Soon enough, I think, you will be moving away from K. and from Korea.

When you wrote: ” I understand that it is hard for them, but for me – it is also very hard, you know?”- it means you are taking your feelings seriously. You are taking your suffering seriously, not only your parents’- and that is the way to live, it is the right way to live, to be concerned primarily with your own feelings, your own survival and your own best interest.

You did the right thing. Keep at it. Relax best you can and continue with the plan. Your life is likely to get so much better. Be patient as the great improvement is going to happen soon enough.

anita