Dear DM:

You asked: “Is there any way to get back with him?”- maybe, if you assured him that there will be no more fighting between the two of you. Here is the fact about fighting and aggression: it is bad for a relationship no matter it doesn’t happen all the time. It is enough that it happens sometimes to damage a relationship. It doesn’t matter how many positive things you do for a person. When you display aggression toward a person, as in fighting, you are operating against the person you supposedly love.

If the other woman did not fight with him, even though she didn’t do for him the many things you did, by not fighting with him, she benefit him more than you did.

Aggression destroys; it doesn’t build.

Regarding your second question: “Is there any way to move on, for real?”- I believe there is and that is to learn from the experience so that the next relationship has a way better chance to work out for the benefit of the two parties. One thing of several things to learn would be, I believe,  to choose a man who does not behave aggressively and to not display aggressive behavior toward him.

anita