Dear Zeba:

I am looking further into your fear of consequences regarding withdrawing from the wedding:

If your family is “very supportive/liberal”- then what are the negative consequences you are afraid of coming from your family?

Regarding his family: how can they possibly hurt you?

You wrote that you are afraid of him pushing himself back into your life through fake apologies and you are considering moving to a different city because of this fear. My question: can you not stay where you live and simply not accept future fake apologies? And are you afraid that he will harm you physically or otherwise once you withdraw from the wedding plans?

anita