Dear Jean:

From my more balanced understanding of his behavior, following your recent post, I still think, as I did before, that he is not available enough for you; that your need for a more available boyfriend is reasonable. I think that his inadequate availability is an understandable reason for your distress, not so much being “too clingy”.

You may be too clingy in general, I don’t know, but in this case, he is too unavailable.

I understand and admire his dedication as a father. I don’t hold him responsible for an ADD he may suffer from (as you suggested). It is up to you whether to accept or not this situation. It is definitely tough on you. It is good that he listened to your concerns, and I wish you re-communicate those to him when relatively calm, not only when you are very distressed. Maybe more frequent reminders will help.

anita