Dear Jean:

The five copies of my last post to you are a result of a technical dysfunction.

Here is what you texted him: “I don’t want to be thought of second or squeezed in when you make plans anymore. That may not be your intention but it’s how it feels”- that was an appropriate, assertive, reasonable statement.

You felt it was an outburst probably because you felt intensely at the time. I think you may  feel very uncomfortable about feeling intense feelings, particularly anger, believing it is not appropriate or right for you to feel anger, or strong anger.

If this is the case, this belief stands in your way of being consistently assertive, promotes self doubt and is working against you. Am I correct?

anita