Dear Heartbrokengurl:

There are plenty of online information on sexual dysfunction. You can look up, for one, Wikipedia’s entry on “sex therapy”. There is such a thing as certified sex therapists (CST). First thing they do is making sure there is no detectable medical problem behind the sexual dysfunction.

The way I would try to help him is in discussing Anxiety with him, not necessarily the specific fears regarding sexual performance, but anxiety in general. I would share about my own anxiety some, ask him if he can relate. If and when he shares about his own, listen attentively and encourage him to share more. Over time, maybe, he will feel more comfortable, safe with you, to share about his sexual performance anxiety.

The safer he feels with you, safe from criticism, impatience, aggression of any kind, as subtle as it may be, the better the chances of open, honest communication on sensitive matters.

Post again, anytime.

anita