Dear Fruzsina:

You shared in your previous thread that you have an “insanely close” relationship with your mother and sister, if I remember correctly, that the three of you talk and talk for hours and lose concept of time.

Having read this post carefully, I am thinking that it is possible that the reason “he would often zone out, go on his phone and kind of go about his day is if I weren’t there” is that you talk to him too much, that you share too much and he can’t keep his concentration on what you say, he has to take a break.

It may be that he is not as closed off as you think he is, but that you have unrealistic expectations regarding a person’s ability to pay attention to a person who talks a lot. Maybe your mother and sister have this ability but most people do not. Is this possible?

anita