Oops, sorry, I guess I didn’t quite finish answering your question “And do you think that if you find a person that provides you the everything that you need right now, they would be worth doing anything for?”

First, I am not sure I now need to find a person that would provide me with everything I need. I am afraid I am now all too convinced about how fickle and uncertain life is. Nothing is guaranteed. Second (a small digression), I have that funny observation that when I needed a man, I met men with “holes” in them (as you put it) (even though they would hide it splendidly). Now (and before I fell so hard for my #1) I am again fine by myself, and it feels as if I am too whole and complete that men don’t approach me exactly because I am so whole and complete – “she doesn’t need anyone.” Tiny Buddha has a dozen of blogs, some participants even wrote to me that I do need to be whole and complete to meet a whole and complete man, but I haven’t met one yet. Maybe there are not that many of them out there, and our paths simply haven’t crossed yet, I don’t know.

 “…worth doing anything for”? Depends on what you mean by “anything.” Depends on the situation. This answer would drive me crazy, because my ex would say it all the time. “We’ll see”, “time will tell”, “depends on the circumstances”… One might take them as a good excuse for not planning anything or throwing one’s hands up, but in reality, can we really tell what tomorrow will bring?

Back to your question, my soul-searching and reading for the past two years brought me to believing that there absolutely must be certain boundaries. And it is best to set them, to know what they are and to stick to them. But I am not sure I am a good counsellor on this one…

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