Dear Allison:

You didn’t mention what his PTSD is about, but reads to me that you have been part of the T in his PTSD, that is, the Trauma, the injury. You attacked him with physical and other violence and you did so repeatedly over years. You attacked him, you wrote, for anything he did or didn’t do. The fact that he eventually lost his romantic or loving feelings for you and those feelings remain lost is understandable. A healthy individual loses feelings that motivate him to reach out to a source of injury, of pain.

You asked: ” Do feelings just go away?” –

your anger didn’t go away for the nineteen years of this relationship, is it gone now? If it is gone for now, do you think it will stay gone if you and him were back together?

anita