Anita,

I think I am understanding what you’re saying. I guess I’m still in denial and not wanting to accept how things turned out, but I’ll have to start seeing things as they are. I can’t control what happened and just have to deal with the reality of the situation, I guess. It’s just hard to do when someone you thought would never do such a thing (one of the reasons I decided to get involved with her) actually does said thing.

And Mike,

Thanks for your encouragement. Although I admit my part of the “blame” or responsibility in this situation by getting involved with someone who was emotionally unavailable and who never showed me much in terms of emotion, I do think she did some pretty messed up things, especially towards the end. Dropping that bomb after sex was brutal and destroyed me in ways I could not imagine. I am mourning and grieving, I just don’t know how normal this is after almost two months. I had never gone through a breakup this painful, and I struggle because I think of her and what she does still. It’s like I want her to fail in this relationship with the other guy, as bad as that sounds, and I realize that’s part of the problem. My resentment can’t make me dwell on her and wishing bad things in her life, and I want to fix that. Every day is a struggle, but like you said, this too shall pass.