Dear DP:

I don’t think the issue is that she was with someone else when you were on a break and that you were not. If it was strictly that then the idea that if you had an unsatisfactory experience with another woman would have mattered in your consideration of having an experience.

I think the issue is in that “toxic past” you mentioned.

In your original post you wrote: “When I started dating her, I was still recovering from a cheating ex and had a general baggage of my parent’s failed relationship. As a result the relationship was toxic, mostly from my end and we also broke up a couple of times. After a few months of break we decided to get back together and leave our toxic pasts behind”-

You left some of your toxic past behind, maybe, but not all of it. Would you like to share some about your parents’ failed relationship, your thoughts and feelings about it as a child and now?

anita