Anita,

You asked : “what value do you think that I see in you, what value motivates me to communicate with you?”

This seems like a trick question, but I will answer it.

The only person that knows the exact answer to that question is you.

All I can do is ASSUME on why you are here communicating with me for months, and here are my assumptions :

1. I noticed that a lot of people in this website aren’t consistent with their progress and threads. They either come here for one time and left or just keep coming without making any progress. You are the kind of person that actually wants to see the process and result, you want to see consistent threads I guess.

2. I try to be as detailed and clear as possible explaining my situation so it was easier for you to understand on where I was coming from and my problems from my perspective.

3. You care. That is why you have been on this website for almost 3 years now. I know that you are not a certified therapist but you research a lot about psychology in general. You used a lot of different terms / perspectives and logic combined to analyse people’s problems, you are very smart but more than that – it is because you care about people that you always willingly try to help them here.

4. I am open to suggestion and advices from others.

5. I am willing to explore more about my problems and provide honest information to you.

These are all the reasons I can think about, I am probably way off from your real motive or reason but I gave it a try.

-Monica