Hi Anita

That’s brilliant.  I know the answers deep down and those few days were a bit of a jolt.  I am so happy with my new lady, we talk about everything, there is trust, love, respect, support everything.  I’ve also broken a cycle with her as she isn’t a damsel in distress so I’m not on a Roller Coaster, or Washing Machine.  It’s a mature happy relationship.  My lady adores my son and they get on like a house on fire.

There is no way that I would go backwards or go back to my ex, in fact, I have been more cross at myself as I should have trusted my gut feelings in the early days and that would have saved me, my ex and our respective kids the pain of another family break up.  It was interesting that when I told my son that my ex and I had split and why, he said that I deserved better and that the things that didn’t happen were the basics of any relationship.  Wise head on a 14 year olds shoulders.

I feel sad for my ex as she is from a very dysfunctional family and also had a really tough arranged marriage where she was beaten and controlled.  In hindsight, she needed time to find herself and become who she wants to be so that she could give her heart and soul to someone.

Anyway, my lady and I are looking forwards together, planning Christmas, holidays and outings with my son.  I am truly happy, as I am calm and can be myself, give and receive love in the right way.

Thank You