Dear Monica:

Regarding the Jake part of your recent post, I understand. Again, you make sense. You do make a lot of assumptions about Jake, some may not be true. I don’t know. But for now, you don’t want change and Jake is responsible for his actions, after all he can ask you questions as well. He can ask you. If he does, when he does, then it will be your responsibility to give him honest answers.

Regarding the second part of your recent post, I will share with you about my sister. I don’t normally share such things, but I will here, with you. She had, according to her, a wonderful childhood, and indeed she seemed happy then. She was very beautiful, physically and very social, popular. She had lots of friends (I didn’t) and boyfriends (I didn’t). She went out a lot, as a teenager, on dates, outings.

Later on, as an adult, she got a bit into acting in Los Angeles, just a bit. She met a very famous international movie star. They had some sort of a relationship. He offered her contacts, and so a possibility of what society considers the best: fame and fortune.

She did not take advantage of that opportunity. Neither did she take advantage of many other opportunities. At fifty, presently, she is living with her mother in a run down neighborhood, the same one where she grew up. Now more run down than it ever was. She walks to the elementary school she attended then, now destroyed, rubble, broken stuff strewn all over, and she reminisces on how wonderful her childhood was. That school, that neighborhood is her best memory, nothing she ever came close to matching.

She  is taking three different kinds of psychiatric medications, anti anxiety, anti depressant and a sleeping pill.

I hope you don’t end up in that situation, Monica, forever missing that 15/16 year of your life. I hope you are and will be open to opportunities to make your life better than you are able to imagine now.

There is more to your life that is available to you and that will be available to you than that year, now gone.

anita