Anita

I would agree with your assessment of my childhood. I always felt left out. Be it due to being shy and not trying to participate in school or just awkward in social situations. That awkwardness has gotten much better and I am now comfortable in social situations.

I have always strived for goals, and in regards to my divorce, it has always seemed that I failed that relationship. So I always considered marriage to be life long. So in essence I failed.

I’m not sure about your assessment of my ex. I would see her so infrequently that I don’t think I wore her out. I do know that our goals were very different. I wanted to move past the occasional dates and dinners out. I would have liked to get our kids together more. At the time I thought I had all that I wanted, but didn’t get what I needed: love. Again an assumption I had was that after 2.5 years together “love” would be in our vocabulary (she never said it to me). Also most people who know me when I told them we broke up they would say “good” or “that is definitely for the best”. Now that is obviously my friends and family saying that, so a skewed group.