Anita,

You wrote : “when you feel very uncomfortable, distressed, it is then that you need to endure that distress, that discomfort without panicking, without lashing out, without resorting to fantasy.”

I understand the concept, but how can I do this?

How can I control this really intense feeling of distressed that comes in every 3-4 weeks consistently?

All that I have been doing this time to “control” the distress is either by lashing out or by making up another comforting fantasy, as if the Gyunnie’s fantasy was not enough, I even dreamt of my first love … my mind always resorted to “fantasy” every time I feel the amount of intense distressed that I cannot mentally handle.

You wrote :”during the distress means to feel it and do nothing.”

So, I have to ignore the feeling of distress?

But how can I ignore something so intense and pushing me to my limits?

The real reason why I resorted to the fantasy in the first place is because my mental is not strong enough to somehow handle it.

I feel lost about this.

-Monica