Dear Jolene:

So you are saying that he used you for phone sex. But reading your original post, I understood that you enjoyed those sexual interactions.

You wrote there: “Our conversations quickly turned sexual, but we couldn’t seem to help it”- we includes you, you couldn’t help it.

“However I think we were both seeking comfort in each other”- again, we includes you- you looked for comfort.

“… I know that I liked the attention/comfort”- here you use “I” – you enjoyed the attention and comfort.

And so, how did he use you more than you used him?

anita