Dear Jolene:

Yes, I believe you did the right thing by removing him from your life.

Your question then is: “how do I cope with these feelings that someone felt okay being dishonest with me, repeatedly?  That you have shared intimacy, but he felt fine not being honest with me …avoiding and ignoring (you)?

First by having a better understanding: a dishonest person doesn’t take a break from … his usual honest self so to be dishonest with you because you deserve dishonesty. A rude person doesn’t take a break from his usual kind and loving self so to be rude and disrespectful to you because you deserve disrespect.

What do you think about this point I am making?

anita