Dear Lira:

You wrote: “I feel like I’ve betrayed myself”- it feels badly when we betray ourselves. The solution is to make things honest, to be honest to others, this way, you are true to yourself.

If you are true to yourself, what would you say to your boyfriend? What would you say to the friend? You can post here the answer to each, because here, knowing that neither will be reading your posts, you don’t have to fear the consequences- let go of such concerns, and tell each man simply what it is that is true to you.

anita