Dear Jo:

I hope that in quality therapy you do work on your issues, as healing is possible for you, however difficult.

Regarding his healing- it may be better for him to not be in a relationship with you, depending on how you interact with him. For example, you wrote that he gives you silent treatments, but if you talk and talk to him, on and on, giving him no break, then it is understandable that he will withdraw.

You wrote that he lied to you, but if you asked him the same question again and again until when tired, he broke and had to stop your asking by lying, that is understandable too.

anita